Some study finds smacked children are more successful later in life. Have you ever spanked your kids?

I spanked Alex one time when Alex said No, whined, and screamed on everything. I think I will remember forever how bad I feel afterward. I couldn’t believe I spanked the kid I love with my heart and soul. After that I tell myself I will NEVER spank my kids,not even a light tap. There are many methods to discipline kids, why spank? Alex is much happier and more cooperative than ever these days when we keep praising him and fix hunger, tiredness, and sickness problems quickly.

However, after you read this article, spanking may not be a bad method to discipline. What do you think?

This is the article.

我们这一代人好像没有没挨过打的,我小时候比较油滑,看到父母脸色不对,就赶快道歉,姐姐挨打得比较多一些。但我们上了小学四五年级之后,父母就没有打过了,我和姐姐都很懂事吧,当然也有倔了吧唧的时候,好像是我比较叛逆,有一次因为洗衣粉什么,把妈妈气得够呛,爸爸不在家,我现在想起来都后悔,觉得自己十几岁的时候怎么那么没大没小的。

刚刚看了一篇文章,讲挨过打(当然是轻打)的孩子在成人之后会更成功,我一个月前打过易峰一次,那天他一回家就大哭大闹,谁说什么都不听,打了妈妈,让他给妈妈说对不起,他不说,我很生气,当时我们家的阿姨还在扇风,“易峰太闹了”“3岁看80岁”。。。所以我一气之下就打了他一顿。但之后我真的很很很很很后悔,心里很难受,真的比打在我自己身上还难受,易峰看着我也怕怕的,那天晚上也不让我抱,我就发誓我不会再打我最爱的孩子,教育的方法千千万,为什么我要选择这种简单的方法呢?这段时间我细心观察易峰,注意方法,易峰变得比以前开心,听话,合作多了,有些时候还很贴心, 就连我们家阿姨给他做早饭,他都会说“谢谢”,那个阿姨以前觉得我们家易峰爱哭,现在就老说易峰好乖呀。

我觉得打孩子还是不打不是一刀切的问题,爱孩子,让孩子懂得爱父母,爱朋友,爱自己才是关键。